Los Alamos Church of Christ

2016 Connections

Caregiver 1




This morning we are beginning the… Caregiver Temperament.  Caregivers are everyone’s favorite.  Throughout this year, in our 2016… Connections theme, we are exploring the 9 historical temperaments.  We are looking at how we are wired so that we can connect to the infinite God.  We have already explored the… The Intellectual Temperament. 

--We have discovered that there are at least 27 of us who scored 70 or higher on the Intellectual temperament test.  This morning we will see our Caregiver score.

--The Intellectual Temperament is valuable to the body of Christ.  The heavy lifting of theology is done by those with the intellectual temperament.  The great truths of Christianity have been and are being threshed out.  We should say… thank you.  

--There are some downsides such as arrogance, fudging and legalism.  The haughty attitude that believes everyone else should line up to sign up for their exacting doctrines is a show stopper.  That is why the Intellectual Temperament is not everyone’s favorite.

--Last week, Emily Chan shared a spectacular intellectual concept… All creation sings to its creator.  Even our DNA sings to the LORD.  We then should connect to the LORD with our unique song!  When I understood what Emily was sharing my intellectual connections lit up to the LORD. 



That is the point of this year.  It is not the information, per se.  It is not finding out our scores, exactly.  It is learning to connect to those sweet spots through our temperaments and perhaps outside of them,



This morning we move to the other end of the temperament chart.  This morning we begin to explore the temperament of… caregiving. 






Caregiving is the most popular temperament.  Everyone enjoys being around caregivers.  Even if you are not one, you like them.  Especially, if you are not one, you like them.  Especially, if you are married to a one, you like them; except when they are is gone.  Because… you are spoiled.  Whether you are married to one or not everyone loves the caregivers.  Caregivers are the glue that keeps the body together.  Maybe we should start by saying to the caregivers amongst us… We love you.



Let’s begin our caregiver study by looking at The Ultimate Caregiver… Jesus






ESV Mark 1:30-42 Now Simon's mother-in-law lay ill with a fever, and immediately they told him about her.  And he came and took her by the hand and lifted her up, and the fever left her, and she began to serve them.  That evening at sundown they brought to him all who were sick or oppressed by demons.  And the whole city was gathered together at the door.  And he healed many who were sick with various diseases, and cast out many demons. And he would not permit the demons to speak, because they knew him.  And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed.  And Simon and those who were with him searched for him, and they found him and said to him, "Everyone is looking for you."  And he said to them, "Let us go on to the next towns, that I may preach there also, for that is why I came out."  And he went throughout all Galilee, preaching in their synagogues and casting out demons.  And a leper came to him, imploring him, and kneeling said to him, "If you will, you can make me clean."  Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand and touched him and said to him, "I will; be clean."  And immediately the leprosy left him, and he was made clean.



--A caregiver healing a caregiver.

--Everyone loves caregivers… the whole town shows up.

--All kinds of help – Caregivers do all sorts of stuff.

--He is also a contemplative… but not for long. 

--If you will… the leper saw the power in the LORD!  Often the hurting can see who are caregivers.

--Moved with pity… there is the motivation for a caregiver… pity; splagcni,zomai splag key niz omai

Meaning: to be moved in the inward parts; to feel compassion.  That place in your stomach where you connect to another’s’ pain.  That’s it this ability that is within a caregiver that connects to the other person with empathy, understanding, compassion, identification… It is seeing the image of God in the other person.  That person reflects the image of the Creator and that leprosy is wrong! 

--Jesus touched the leper! What?  You don’t touch lepers.  You can’t stand the rotting smell of lepers. Much less get close enough to touch them.  Jesus could have healed him from town down, but his soul needed healing so Jesus touched him. 

--“If you will? I will” is the moto of all caregivers.

--That which was wrong is made right.  That is the goal of all caregivers… removing what tarnishes the image of God, making it clean!



Here is an intellectual thought… It was only because of Jesus that caregiving became associated with religion.  Pagan religions were not about helping others.  Most cultures of Jesus’ time thought people got what they deserved.  You are blind because… You have leprosy because…  You are marginalized because… you deserve it.  But Jesus changed all that.  Jesus merged caregiving with religion.  Jesus taught this to his brother James…



ESV James 1:27 Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.



WOW!  Jesus scores 100 on the Caregiver Temperament Test.  Jesus healed a mother-in-law… bonus points.  He is all over the place doing various healings.  He touches the leper.  I Will! Be Clean!  Jesus scores 100!



Let’s see what your score is.   Turn to the Caregiver Temperament Test in your notebook.  (Notebooks)



Write you answers in the left boxes.






The Caregiving Temperament Test



Here are 10 questions which you will score to find your Caregiver Temperament Score.  This test is sanctioned… by Temperament Indications Metric… or the TIM.



I need to say again, be as honest as you can.  These are not trick questions.  But they were difficult to come up with.  If you want to skew the answers you can.  Think a bit and give a straight up as answer as you can. 



On a Scale of 1 -10… with 10 describing you and 1 not. 



1. I visit shut ins… nursing homes, hospitals, the jail and others who are not able to get out.  (10, being you do it frequently, 1, being hardly ever)


2. I do volunteer work in the community.  I belong to organizations which help people.  Coaching, food distribution organizations, United Way, working in kid programs. (10, you spend time every week doing something, 1, Bah Humbug)


3. I hang out after church to visit with people.  Most of the time I have someone in mind I need to talk to.  (10, last one to leave, 1, first one to leave)


4. I often have people in mind I need to contact. God puts people on my heart. I sent them emails, call them or get together with them. 


5. I use my skills to help others.  People call me to do DIDs - (Damsel in Distress or Dudes in distress) This includes… caring for the sick, giving rides, helping with home repairs, working on cars, taking meals, helping people move…


6.  I help at church.  Painting, repairs, cleaning, maintenance, Wednesday meals, snacks, Kid Kare, Greeters…


7. People are often in my house.  I invite people over.  I host parties.  The Super Bowl was at my home. People just stop by.  People stay with you.  My home is always open.    


8. I take people out to eat.   I insist on paying for it.  I enjoy visiting with people at a restaurant.   


9. I am a generous. I give liberally, tipping, donations.  When Santa rings the bell I put money in.   I buy lots of Girl Scout cookies, not because you like to eat them.  I am an easy mark people needing money. 


10. I give thoughtful gifts.  I spend time making gifts, picking out gifts and wrapping them and giving them at the right time. 


Before you add your score up… I need to tell you something. 




As you have gathered from the test, there are a variety of different kinds of caregivers…


--Minister Caregivers.  People who connect to God through actual hands-on helping.  Those who help when others who are unable to help themselves.  Nurses, doctors, healers.  Those who are there when you need them in time of need.  When you are sick you call one of these.   Questions 1 & 2 are about this type of caregiver.



--Counselor Caregivers.  These caregivers are wired to listen.  If you have a problem these are the ones you want to get advice.  You need to ask them what to do.  There are people who you find yourself talking to about your problems.  Questions 3 & 4 are about this type of caregiver.



--Servant Caregivers.  These are the ones who do stuff.  If you need some fixed you call a servant.  If you are stuck in a ditch they come pull you out… literally or metaphorically.  They often help and no one knows they did it.  Something needs to get done… they do it.  Often they say that.  “Someone needed to do that, so I did.”  Without recognition they serve… Questions 5 & 6 are about this type of caregiver.


--Hospitality Caregivers.  In their presence you feel welcome.  You want to spend time doing things with them.  These are people who energize others.  There are sponges and buckets.  These are the buckets.  You come away from them feeling better.  Hospitality Caregivers are warm.  Questions 7 & 8 are about this type of caregiver.



--Giver Caregivers.  They give money.  They give what is needed.  They are generous.  They may or may not be there to help, but they provide the resources needed to help. Giver Caregivers float the boat.  Questions 9 &10 are about this type of caregiver.



The TIM has some instructions… The Caregiving Temperament Score is tricky because there are general caregivers and specific Caregivers.  So the TIM has the following instructions. 

--Add the two scores of each type of caregiver together.  Add 1&2 and write the score in the box to the right of the two.  Add 3&4 and put the sum in the box.  Take the highest of these 5 numbers and multiply it times 5.  Write that score in the bottom right box

--Now just add up all the numbers on the left… 10 numbers in the box at the bottom. 

Whichever is higher is your Caregiver Temperament Score…


There are general caregivers those who are across the board true caregivers… score over 70.  But there are specific caregivers may be strong in one type put not all… also can have a high score. 


Raise hands in your score is over 50 – 60 – 70… write number on congregational charts.


Here is the fun part… Watch for the five kinds of caregivers in Matthew 25.






ESV Matthew 25:34-40 Then the King will say to those on his right, “Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.  For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, (Giver)  I was a stranger and you welcomed me, (Hospitality)  I was naked and you clothed me, (Servant) I was sick and you visited me, (Minister) I was in prison and you came to me. (Counselor) ” Then the righteous will answer him, saying, “Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink?  And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you?  And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?” And the King will answer them, “Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.”



The caregiver looks behind the eyes of the needy in order to see Jesus.  Caregiving is not just helping it is worship through helping.

--When your gift is given… it is given to Jesus in worship.

--When your home is open… it is inviting Jesus in.

--When you serve… you are ministering to Jesus.

--When you help the hurting… you are comforting Jesus.

--When your words help soothe another… those words are worship to Jesus.



We began with the amazing story of Jesus touching the leper.  By being a Caregiver you get to touch Jesus with your giving!  Connections… the sweet spot of worship is touching Jesus! 





There has never been or ever will be someone who is just like you.  This isn’t a testimony about you, but rather a statement of God’s infiniteness. The significance of your uniqueness is… only you can worship God like you.  No one can take your place. AND God desires you.  BUT, God desires all of you.  God wants your all 100 billion brain cells.  God is praised in your unique song.  As Caregiver, you touch Jesus.



Stand and join me in reciting The Shema…



ESV Mark 12:29-30 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.  And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”


My temperament is God’s gift to me.

My temperament is my gift to God.

My temperament is my gift to the body.

My temperament is my gift to the world.




Tim Stidham

February 21, 2016

Los Alamos Church of Christ